Posted 5 hours ago

My older coworker told me, “Once you get to a certain age, you start to appreciate the little things in life. Most people see that plant as a weed, but it’s just a beautiful flower to me because I’m just lucky to have been here to see it.” 

It’s a good outlook. I just nodded. I’m only 23. I’m really young. But I have the same way of seeing things as him, really. In my case, it’s not age. It’s what I’ve suffered through. I’m not making any special claims that I’ve hurt more than others. But I’ve seen my death thousands of times by now and know what it’s like to be locked away in your own, dark mental prison. I also realize that I can’t say with certainty I’m gonna make it to his age. 

The little things are beautiful. 

Posted 6 hours ago

Now that “growing up” already happened…

For me, growing up has been a process of:

  • learning how to take less care of other people and more care of myself
  • learning that other humans can be cruel, sometimes unintentionally, but it’s good to forgive them because we all make mistakes
  • It’s also okay to know who you don’t want to be around. To each their own
  • You don’t have to hate someone to realize you’re not good for each other and should go your separate ways
  • Loving someone doesn’t mean they’re good for you
  • My feelings count, and I can’t keep making choices that disregard how I feel
  • Just because I’m strong doesn’t mean I can do everything alone
  • Needing support with my mental illness doesn’t make me “needy”
  • The way I feel isn’t necessarily what’s true (particularly about my depressed feelings; i’m not actually a terrible person, it’s just how i feel)
  • Feeling more comfortable with my sexuality (not necessarily orientation; personal reasons why this was hard for me). 
  • I have a lot less control over how I feel than I wish, and maybe less than most people. 
  • I’m going to deal with depression for the rest of my life
  • I don’t deserve to be treated badly.
  • I can do anything I try my best at; I’m not a talentless failure
  • It’s okay to be lonely. Feelings come and ago.
  • Not everything is my fault
  • I have friends, too

Just some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way so far. 

Posted 6 hours ago
People don’t like love, they like that flittery flirty feeling. They don’t love love - love is sacrificial, love is ferocious, it’s not emotive. Our culture doesn’t love love, it loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it. It’s ridiculous.
Matt Chandler (via wnq-writers)
Posted 1 day ago

As part of my recovery challenge thing, I’m writing letters to all of my good friends. Slow going cuz I think so hard about it. 

But in the process, I’ve realized that the sentence, “I didn’t really think you would like me” came up a lot. Which led me to realize that I always assume people will not like me. 

Friendship, acquaintance or even romance, I give up before I even try because I assume people will not like me. O_O

Posted 1 day ago

I realized last night that when college, graduate school and other schools ask how you can contribute to their diversity, it’s just a fancy way of saying, “How are you different than white middle class men?”

Posted 2 days ago

xcuteikinz:

gryffindorgeek7777:

mad-piper-with-a-box:

thetomska:

giddytf2:

the-last-teabender:

Robin Thicke is unapologetic about how rapey ‘Blurred Lines’ is, meanwhile the dude who parodied it issues a public apology for one word.

And that is just one reason why I love Weird Al.

It’s great that he’s addressed this but are we really supposed to believe that NO ONE during the extremely lengthy processes of writing a song, recording it, mastering it and animating the music video wouldn’t have brought it up?

Excuse me but how the hell is spastic even remotely insulting?

So I just recently learned that in the UK calling someone spastic means the same thing as calling someone retarded, only much worse.

If it makes people in the UK feel any better, people in the US literally do not know this (like literally no one I have ever met and/or know). Here being spastic is usually meant to mean something along the lines of acting like a hyper-active child (like running around in circles yelling just because they feel like it please be quiet for just 2 minutes type of child). NOBODY here uses it as a slur.

Since Weird Al is a US musician and the US music industry is pretty non-international, yeah actually I think its entirely possible that none of the people who worked on this song actually knew that spastic was considered an awful slur in some parts of the world.

And I’m like 99.9999% sure that Weird Al is genuinely very sorry that he was accidentally offensive.

^^^^^

wow… the more you know

Posted 2 days ago
Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.
Mother Teresa (via kushandwizdom)
Posted 2 days ago
Posted 2 days ago

I wanna know what people assume about me because of my tumblr.

Put an assumption in my ask. I’ll confirm or dispute it. I’m not gonna be mean or anything, I’m just very interested.

(Source: askboxmemes)

Posted 2 days ago
Even if we’re married for 23 years,
I still want you to flirt with me.
A novel written by me. (via princessariel2323)