Posts tagged people

Posted 5 months ago

Little Annoyances in Life

Person tells you how awesome someone else’s advice was… YOU TOLD PERSON THE EXACT SAME THING A BAZILLION YEARS EARLIER AND THEY THOUGHT IT WAS WRONG.

Person talks to you, lavishing their praises on someone else for thing. PERSON DOESN’T SEEM TO CARE OR NOTICE THAT YOU DO THING TOO.

Person asks for but ignores your advice. PERSON COMPLAINS TO YOU HOW EVERYTHING IS GOING WRONG AND ASKS YOU TO FIX IT.

Person claims you are one of their best friends. ONLY TALKS TO YOU WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING.

Person talks to you regularly, sharing many important parts of their life. PERSON COMPLAINS OR GETS DISTRACTED WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT YOURS.

Person asks for your advice regularly. PERSON JEALOUS BECAUSE YOUR LIFE IS “SO EASY.”

Joint production by me and cyanidevixen

Haha just taking a minute to be vain and complain about the silly shit in life that bothers me and a friend sometimes XD it’s just for fun. life’s too big to take this stuff too seriously. 

Posted 1 year ago
Solitude is where you find yourself so you can reach out to other people and form real attachments. If you don’t have the capacity for solitude, you reach out to other people in order to feel less anxious or to feel more alive.
Sherry Turkle
Posted 1 year ago
Man is timid and apologetic… He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose. These roses under my window make no reference to former roses or to better ones; they are for what they are; they exist with God to-day. There is no time to them. There is simply the rose; it is perfect in every moment of its existence.
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self Reliance
Posted 1 year ago

I have trouble communicating sometimes

I’ve been accused of being pretentious because of the words I use on the internet. What my accusers don’t realize is that this is just how I talk sometimes, and I really consider it a handicap! lol

Best example

I was in an experiment where I had to describe shapes on a computer screen so that the person on the other side could guess them.

What I said.

It’s an oblong circularish shape of bluish-green tint on the upper right quadrant of the screen. 

What it really was

A teal oval on the upper right. 

Like wtf haha. The whole time, I just imagined the recipient thinking, “Wtf is this guys problem?” I walked out of the experiment feeling REALLY embarassed lmao. I don’t know what goes on in my head sometimes. I honestly just didn’t think “teal oval” until afterward.

Posted 1 year ago

Two Epiphanies Today

The first: as a young person, I take for granted that liberalism should be normative (particularly and mostly referring to social liberalism). That’s naive, of course. For the vast majority of history, social liberalism in lots of areas wasn’t the norm. I just never really stopped to realize that I’m actually living through the transformation of society.

I see conservatives as these old, entrenched and absurd ideals from many yester-years. But really, they are representing the overarching norms. It’s tradition for our society to be homophobic, racist, sexist and generally stupid. Secularism really is a new, somewhat radical thing to propose, too. Realizing this helps put my life in perspective. Now I see that we’re not necessarily slipping on a slope back into the freakin’ dark ages. We’re just struggling to continue the climb, but progress is being made.

The second: maybe other people don’t think like me. I’m not referring to the content of my thoughts entirely. I’m also referring to the manner. Allow me to illustrate.

"I walked along the edge of the pond, the waters shimmering slightly in the afternoon sun. A fish caught my eye as it meandered its way through the waters, perhaps in search of a bite to eat. I wondered if it noticed me; noticed the world above the waters. It was in that moment, I began to comprehend the enormity of life and how very tiny I was."

That’s something you might read in a book or something, right? Okay, well I realized that this may not actually be how people think. What do I mean? I was reading Catcher in the Rye, and I wondered whether or not it was normal for people’s thoughts to be legible. If I were to sample people’s minds, would I be able to write them down and make coherent sentences? Or do most people not have legible thoughts? Do they think in color, shape and pitch? 

What I’m writing here is what I think. Literally. This is very close to how my thoughts are when I am alone inside my head with no audience. I think nearly complete sentences (much faster than I can speak them, though). And the content is usually related to something larger than living in the moment. I wonder about people I see. Who are they? I remember events from the past. How could they have happened diffrently? 

So what’s in another person’s mind? Would their thoughts be legible to me? Is my way of thinking, my “legible” way of thinking unique, common, rare? Do people think in narrative the way you can read a book? I do.

I asked my friends. They gave me the impression that I am odd. It doesn’t matter how common it is, really. I just never imagined that maybe others don’t think in language and abstractions. Realizing it has enlightened me.

Posted 2 years ago

I think it’s worth saying that we have more in common because of our shared personhood than we have in difference because of our religious, political or economic beliefs (and/or lack thereof). 

Posted 2 years ago

Overturn the Citizens United Case

Corporations are not people and shouldn’t be allowed to spend unlimited amounts of money to buy our elections. 

This is just one effort: it’s a petition to amend the Constitution to make it clear that the rights of citizens do no belong in the same to for-profit entities, and it grants Congress the power to regulate campaign finance. 

Also, January 20th is the anniversary of the case! Participate in movements that day.

Posted 2 years ago
You can spot good character by paying attention to how much value people place into their words.
me
Posted 2 years ago

Too many people underestimate how beautiful they will be/are to the person that loves them

Or even someone odd like me that just appreciates it. 

Posted 2 years ago

Desperation of Deprivation Myth: Response

Conservatives miss the mark in articles like these. I agree that in absolute terms, youth in the US are mostly not as deprived as the rest of the world. But that doesn’t matter on two accounts.

Psychologically, it really is relative deprivation that matters, not absolute deprivation. So while you can argue that these people don’t actually endure any absolute deprivation that’s very serious, the point is moot unless you have a way to overcome Human Nature and its psychological programming. 

You can attempt to levy more blame on them, but that won’t change the situation. And the only result is that you’re going to create a society based on locking up people who don’t have as nice things as you do, which has the other undesirable condition of mostly locking up minorities. 

The second count is even more important: these people are not merely deprived of “things,” they live in a deprived culture. And the deprivation of that culture comes from *drum roll* people who hold the opinions of this article. 

Somewhere along the line, economic theory become a cultural and political attachment. “Free market capitalism,” is no longer just an idealized system of economic structure, but a faith, a way of life and being. Fervent individualism and competition tears down the support structure of an honest, open society; in a word that the right seems to misunderstand and fear, it destroys “collectivism”.

Collectivism is a matter of culture; it is not an economic philosophy (in other words, it’s not socialism). But like I said, the lines between economics, culture and politics have been blurred (mostly because of the Cold War; I can elaborate on that later if anyone wants, but i doubt people read this lol), so a cultural orientation of the collective good, things that foster interpersonal connection, pride and functioning society are battling against the cultural off-shoot of an economic religion. 

It not only makes no sense, it’s destructive of society. It’s not that surprising there are riots in a society that places the individual’s desires and wants on a pedestal and demonizes anything that would consider elevating society or groups as a whole. 

To be clear, this doesn’t excuse individuals from responsibility. But it certainly explains a lot. And I find it funny (in sad way) that the prescription the author has is simply more of the problem. Nonprofits, volunteerism, service: those things build the social fabric that the cultural offshoots of unrestrained capitalism destroy.